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End of teen friendship means splitting stuff, too

Hey, Cherie!

This is a sad letter, because it is about the end of a friendship with my former best friend forever. Alishia and I met when we were in preschool, and I am not kidding. We were best friends for so many years. We used to say that we were sisters. We did everything together

It was the kind of best friend where I would be at Alishia’s house in the afternoon and then call her when I got home because I forgot to tell her something.

Alishia and I made a collection of snow globes together. They are those round or half-round souvenirs that you can get in airports. They are glass or plastic and full of water. In that water, there are white flakes and a scene from the location of the souvenir. One I see a lot contains the Statue of Liberty. When you shake the globe, it makes it look like it’s snowing around the object in the snow globe. They are kind of cheesy, but they are also kind of cool.

Alishia and I would buy each other snow globes whenever we traveled. We started doing this in third grade. You can imagine that we have a big collection now in 10th grade. We have more than 70 snow globes.

My problem is that Alishia and I are not best friends anymore. We are not even friends. Something happened that I don’t want to talk about, but we are not friends.

How do we divide up the snow globe collection• Right now, they are all at Alishia’s house, but I want the globes I bought. Not that I can remember which ones I bought and which ones she bought.

— Splitting Globes

Hey, Splitting!

Aww. I love snow globes. Did you know that you can’t take them in carry-on luggage anymore on airplanes• I found this out the hard way, after I bought one in Las Vegas, checked my bag and tried to bring it through security. Now TSA has a snow globe in its collection of possible dangerous cargo. But I digress.

This sounds like a sad one between you and Alishia. You two had a really close friendship for such a long time. Is it possible that you both think that it is over, but it’s really not over• And the reason that you haven’t divided up the snow globe collection is that you don’t want it to be over, so the globes are in some way keeping you together• Maybe not, but I just wanted to put that possibility out there.

There is no good way to split up the globes. Here are some possible ways: Have a friend you both trust figure it out for you. Put a number on each of the globes at random, and one of you take the odd ones and one of you take the even ones. Get together and choose them one by one, like picking a team for kickball. Rotate the collection, so you each have it for a half-year. Sell the whole thing on eBay and split the money or donate it.

No matter what you do, it won’t be fun. The ends of friendships are sad.

Hey, Cherie!

Is it possible to get hooked on lip balm• I think I am. I use about a tube a day.

— Addicted

Hey, Addicted!

I can state with certainty that there is no addictive substance in lip balms, but it sure feels good going on. I wouldn’t say you are hooked, but I’d say you sure love the stuff.

Best idea• Just quit taking it to school. And don’t borrow your friend’s lip balm if you’re thinking you use too much.

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